He dumped ME for #234 in Delaware!!!
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I would never believe this… Until a few weeks ago, I thought I was the beacon for the boys in my neighborhood and grew worried about why do all my exes want me back?
Things change…
People enter into relationships for various reasons.
If two people live to give to each other, their relationship will prosper.
If they live to get, their relationship will, unfortunately, wither and die.
Suppose that he was totally self-centered, selfish, controlling, and valued her only insofar as he could use her.
In that case, she would have been in a world of hurt by staying around him.
How to handle an awkward situation. How to handle an ex coming back
Let me continue with an excellent quote…
I would like to quote a more significant part from an excellent online article on this matter (it is here).
I find these words amazing because we all thought about our partners or lovers or husbands at one point or another. They were the best people in the world.
As a matter of fact, were they?
“When an ex you washed your hands of a long time ago comes crawling back into your life, it’s tempting to believe it’s because he still loves you and has realized the error of his ways, but unfortunately, that’s usually not the case at all. There are plenty of reasons old flames come back for seconds (or thirds or fourths) that have very little to do with you at all.”
They want total control…
Some people enjoy the sensation of control.
Suppose you have actually ever dated someone like that.
In that case, it can be a big inspiration for circling back to an old relationship.
They’ll return around to see if they still have the power over you they once did.
It’s a sad, manipulative little game, and you do not need to play it any longer.
He has become your enemy…
You have ultimately moved on and are seeing a terrific person.
Suddenly, your ex-lover appears unexpectedly, informing you just how much he’s missed you & wishes to rekindle your love.
He’s not doing this since that’s just how he actually feels.
He’s doing it because you have someone else in your life, and he wants to spoil it.
He can’t stand the truth that you enjoy life and loving someone else without him, and also he’s jealous, so he’s a butt.
He regrets the security of the former relationship and wants it back…
If your partnership ended because there was someone else, it makes the separation suck a lot more.
Naturally, once things go sour with them, your ex will likely come crawling directly on back to you since what you had was secure.
Whereas what he had with the person he left you for was based upon something even more superficial.
Why does my ex want me back now that I have a new boyfriend? Why do all my exes want me back, suddenly?
Some of the people you have dated were complete horrors when you were together.
They’ll send that “allow’s catch up” message not because they need to know about your life.
No.
Your former exes fancy you to understand they’ve gone from absolutely “no” to “super-hero” since you separated.
Now, it’s time for you to regret leaving them!
Most probably, they’re lonely…
Possibly one of the most widespread reasons ex-spouses return is since they have no other options.
They think you’re a simple alternative.
They believe that due to your shared background (and the presumption that you’re in the same boat), you’ll be able to make them really feel better or less lonesome.
They do not miss you.
They simply miss out on the intimacy you once shared.
Frequently Asked Questions
Nope. Actually, not always. I would invite you to read more blog posts of mine on exes coming back and agonizing signs he will never come back to you; click the links, and they will open new windows in your existing browser.
One of the fabulous things about my new life is that I had moved past the days when I was consumed with what my ex would say. I am not a cruel person, and I would never use my ex or my ex’s words about me. But I understand what it feels like to have someone who used to be in my life say those hurtful things and think of them and their hurtful words. I have moved beyond that. I am now in the space of looking forward to a new life with a new person who will fill my new life with new love and peace.
If you are in a relationship, you may feel like you’ve done everything you can to make the relationship work, but have you done enough? Have you done enough to make your ex come back? This can be a question that you ask in the middle of a rebound.
Most marriage breakups are caused by either one person not paying attention to what the other is doing or the other person not taking the initiative to make things better in the relationship. When rebound after a marriage breaks up, both parties are usually not working towards improving the relationship.
I found this interesting answer on Quora (unfortunately, I can’t remember the precise thread anymore):
“There may be multiple reasons why your ex is now your ex and by becoming successful I don’t think it is going to make any difference.
Move on. Accept the fact that some things aren’t meant to last. Some people come into our lives just to teach us how to get stronger. Take the learnings from your past relationship and move on to a better life. Become successful but not under the belief that it will make your ex want you, become successful because you want to!
Don’t go behind the one who didn’t want you, you deserve way better than that, and better things may be waiting for you which you aren’t aware of at this point. An ending is always the sign of a new beginning! :)”
My opinion is that these words seem very, very wise. Anyway, the matter is very complex. It is not a rare occurrence that people frequently guide themselves according to selfish instincts.
I would with another long quote from Quora:
“The number reason is that, after a line of other relationships, he has determined that his experience with you is either the most rewarding or that he never quite got over you, to begin with, and knows that, now, he is in a better place to cultivate a better relationship with you.
The pessimistic side of the same coin could be that the break from YOU is a challenge he would like to conquer because he had felt unsatisfied with the breakup and wants to prove that he is more than worthy after time has passed.
The third reason could be that he broke up with you knowing you were heartbroken, and he wants to see that he still owns a piece of you. (Everyone always holds our hope that they have a bit of their ex no matter how much hatred or negativity exists)
In that case, he could be at his rock bottom, and you are the only person he thinks still has feelings for him.
Or it can be a mixture of any two or more of these reasons and motives.”
What Are the Traits of Compatibility?
It’s a vicious cycle.
That’s why I’m going to show you how to find someone with who you’re compatible.
But first, let me say this is a terrible idea if your ex prefers someone else.
If you find someone who has a different religion, or different sexual preference or more attractive, or less interesting, or has an extra height, or a foreign accent or a completely different nature. You are setting yourself up for more heartbreak and disappointment.
Why won’t my ex give me my stuff back? Don’t take the chance.
If you are ready to find someone with who you’re compatible, and you really do have standards, then you can’t find someone who can meet those standards.
You’ll end up with someone really different.
And that’s OK, sometimes we want other things, and we find someone who is at least somewhat similar.
But, it does NOT mean you’ll get married to them.
The chances are your companion is going to find someone else.
He’s not going to stay single for the rest of his life if he can’t find someone compatible with him.
It’s widespread.
If you’ve managed to find someone who you’re compatible with, then you have a better chance of living happily ever after.
If you’ve managed to find someone with who you’re harmonious, then you have the best shot at a happy ending.
If you’re able to find someone compatible, then they’re more likely to love you, and you have a better chance of having a good ending.
Don’t let yourself fall in love with someone who’s not compatible with you.
They might be lovely, and they might talk a lot of smacks.
Still, suppose they have a different religion or a different sexual preference or are more physically attractive.
In that case, you are more likely to have a bad marriage or a relationship that’s doomed.
Suppose you really love a man who has a similar religious preference to yours but is a Republican or a Democrat.
In that case, you’re going to have a hard time making him see the light.
Suppose he’s a Muslim or an Episcopalian or an Evangelical Christian.
In that case, you’re going to have a tough time making him see the light.
You have to have standards and be clear about what you want in a marriage and a relationship.
You’re really going to have a better chance at finding someone who you are compatible with if you’re clear about what you need, and that means don’t settle for a man who’s cute and good-looking.
Don’t settle for a man who’s not intelligent.
Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t have money. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t hold similar religious beliefs to yours.
When it comes to compatibility, it’s the traits that you look for that are the most important.
As you would expect, marriages tend to be the most stable relationships in which we see compatibility traits.
It’s the traits of compatibility that are typical to make a long-term relationship work.
Communication is essential to a successful long-term relationship.
That’s why if you’re in love with someone, there’s nothing more important than being able to communicate.
When it comes to communication, what you look for is something along the lines of a strong opinion and the ability to express a strong belief and persuade.
If you can do these things, then you’re likely to have a happy ending.
You might think that getting an opinion from someone is useless.
But I’ve seen couples break up because their view wasn’t valued by their partner.
It’s prevalent to get one side of the argument, and it’s widespread to get the other side of the argument (after all, the question was: why do all my exes want me back?)
Why do all my exes want me back? Why is my ex trying to get back with me after cheating and lying to me several times?
This is because there’s a lot of competition in today’s world.
So if you don’t stand a chance of getting your opinion heard, then it’s not worth having.
There’s also a lot of competition for a lot of jobs.
So if you don’t stand a chance of getting a position in an influential position, you don’t stand a minimal chance of getting work in a less significant role.
And if you don’t stand a chance of getting an important position, you don’t stand a chance of getting any position.
So communication is essential in a relationship.
And having a lot of opinions is crucial.
And persuading someone is very important.
All of these are the traits that are the most important to a successful long-term relationship.
Knowing this is the key to a long-term relationship.
And with this understanding, you will get a very stable bond (more on this matter and facts, here and here; click the links, and they will open new windows in your pre-existing browser).
Maria
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PS. I hope you have enjoyed reading my blog post, ’Why Do All My Exes Want Me Back? Am I #1 Girl In The World?’ Please, consider my words and advice as a personal opinion. I am no guru, and, unfortunately, I cannot guarantee happiness (in wealth or marriage, whatever situation; sincerely hoping that they are coming back to you soon or maybe never[ read more here. If you are thinking about serious consequences, please, see a lawyer; my advice couldn’t in any way replace a qualified legal opinion).
